With a bit of arrogance, we jumped headlong into the quest to get pregnant. Only it didn’t happen. “Why?” we wondered after several months.

Sure, by now I was in my mid-30s, but I was healthy and strong and had never had any indication that getting pregnant would be a problem once I decided that I was ready for a family.

What should have been easy, suddenly became very, very difficult. Being the goal-oriented couple we are, my husband and I found it especially difficult to find ourselves on the losing end of our quest.

We had never failed at anything before, and let me tell you that this was not something we were prepared to fail at! So, we kept trying … and trying … and trying …

Sex was now just that – sex with a purpose. Done when my temperature dictated, it became a means to an end result, lacking the excitement and the passion it had once held for us.

After more than a year of frustration, our relationship began to feel the strain. I was moody and short-tempered, often on the verge of tears.

I couldn’t bear to watch other women’s pregnant bellies grow while mine remained an empty tomb. My every thought revolved around what I was doing (or had done) wrong.

What was wrong with me? Why couldn’t I do what every other woman could accomplish so easily?

Tired of blaming each other for our inability to conceive, we sat down, had a heart-to-heart talk, and decided that it was time to get some answers.

After putting off going to the OB/GYN for fear of what we’d learn, we decided to face our fears and get tested for a variety of infertility issues.

Unfortunately, like so many other couples discover, the answers we desperately wanted – and needed – weren’t going to be available to us. Neither of us exhibited any physical, physiological, or biochemical reason to prevent pregnancy.

The experts didn’t have a clue as to why I wasn’t pregnant and dubbed us with the term “non-specific infertility.”

They suggested that we de-stress and keep trying. Great! Hadn’t that been what we were doing all along?

That’s when I decided to take matters into my own hands. If the experts weren’t going to find out what was thwarting our attempts at having a child, I was going to figure it out on my own – and fix it!

So, I started to research every aspect of infertility. I read every book and research study I could get my hands on and began talking with hospitals and researchers worldwide about clinical trials and new treatment strategies being considered for couples like us.

I was clearly obsessed with my mission and felt as if I’d go nuts if I didn’t find an answer.

After four-plus long years of trying anything and everything to get pregnant, it worked!

We had finally conceived! I couldn’t believe my eyes as I stared at those two stripes gleaming from the pregnancy test strip. We’d done it! We were going to have a baby!

Unfortunately, our happiness was short-lived when our precious baby was miscarried at 9 weeks. We were devastated. In an instant, all of our hopes and dreams had vanished – again!

Not long after that small tragedy of ours, I discovered a very important piece of research. I believe now that it was the final piece to our puzzle and allowed us to not only get pregnant but carry our baby to full term – twice!

After learning this new “trick,” we conceived our daughter within a few short months. My second pregnancy took less than a month to achieve.

Ten years after beginning our quest, we were the proud parents of two beautiful, healthy children!

This blog was created for you… you who now struggles to get pregnant but cannot find the right path, your unique path to pregnancy.

I sincerely hope this blog will inspire and help you reach your goals: to hold your healthy beautiful baby in your arms.

I sincerely hope my journey and all the information I share in this blog will help you get pregnant or at least inspire you to reshape your perception of what infertility really is.

Once you see infertility for what it truly is, only then you can start the path to overcoming infertility, feeling energized and rejuvenated, and enjoying vibrant health.

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